You’ve all seen the movie ‘Jerry Maguire’ right? Well, remember the scene where Tom Cruise says to Renee Zellweger “You complete me”? You probably melted a little inside when you watched it, right?
If you haven’t…. here is the scene I’m referring to.
But if you really think about the line it sounds a bit ridiculous, doesn’t it?
How can anybody possibly complete you? Only you can complete you, right? What is the point of being you if someone else can complete you? You may as well just let them be all of you, right?
And if ‘completing’ your partner is one of the prerequisites for a serious relationship, then maybe I’d rather not have one (for now at least). I already have a full time job!
Of course we want to be there for our partners. We want a partner who is going to enrich and fulfil our lives and bring out the best in us and we want to be able to do those things for HIM as well – but how much is too much? Where do we draw the line?
So often, couples get so wrapped up in their relationship that they lose themselves.
“I just don’t know who I am anymore!” is a sad cry that can often be heard from both men and women in long term relationships. They forget about their interests, their individuality, their friends or just the little things that they used to so enjoy doing on their own. They get so wrapped up in that other person that they can simply forget who they are.
How can we be in love and be there for the other person without relying on them to complete us?
Before we enter into a relationship, should we complete ourselves first?