How many times have we heard this one? Personally, I’ve lost count!
“You’re an awesome chick, I’m just not ready for a relationship right now.”
A couple of months down the track, what should pop up on your Facebook newsfeed? Mr. Not Ready for a Relationship has changed his relationship status and accompanied it with a loved-up profile pic.
Hang on a minute…what?! You wonder if you’ve missed something. Just a few weeks ago he was saying he wasn’t ready for one. It’s at that moment you realize that he obviously was just not that into you. You feel like an idiot, right?
So why do guys use this line? Are they just trying to be nice and not hurt our feelings? Are they just trying to make it easier on themselves? Or did they genuinely not want a relationship until this other girl came along?
Did he ever really like you? or did he just suddenly decide he was ready for to settle down so shortly after you by coincidence? What is it about this new girl that he perceives to be a whole lot better than you? Aaaargh! The questions that rattle around our brains.
And the worst part of it is…Facebook! If it wasn’t for Facebook you wouldn’t even know about it right? You would more than likely go through the rest of your life never knowing what happened to that guy you dated briefly who didn’t want a relationship. You would be blissfully unaware – wouldn’t that be nice?
My solution: DO NOT befriend a date on Facebook until you become semi-serious!
What you gain by doing this:
1. You’re not letting him into your life too early
Because let’s face it, if you’re anything like me your Facebook page shows almost all of it! So by waiting to add him on Facebook, you’re holding on to a bit of mystery.
2. You’re not learning too much about him either
Do you often find that you go to catch up with a friend you haven’t seen in months, you begin to tell them what’s been happening in your life and they say “I know. I saw it on Facebook.” This can be frustrating at times can’t it?
So what’s the point in dating someone and getting to know them face to face, when you can just see it all on Facebook? Get to know him the old fashioned way.
3. Ignorance is bliss
And the best one of all… If he disappears into thin air or changes his relationship status soon after dating you, you won’t know about it. This saves you from feeling like an idiot and tormenting yourself with questions that can never be answered. Why put yourself through unnecessary hurt?
Have you been thrown this line? Have you been hurt by what you’ve seen on Facebook? What are your thoughts and how did it effect you?
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Until next time… Xx