So, there is this guy you like and you think he likes you too. Why? Because he told you so of course!
If he told you he likes you, it must be true right? Wrong!
One of the biggest lessons I’ve learned from dating is that actions almost always speak louder than words. I really cannot emphasise this one enough!
There have been many times when I’ve been convinced that a guy liked me simply because he had told me so, but then I’ve ended up being confused because his actions didn’t quite match his words. I used to make excuses for them. No matter what happened, I would say to my girlfriends “But he told me how much he liked me.” and they would of course agree with me like girlfriends do, and come up with excuses too. Like, “Oh babe, he’s probably just busy right now. If he said he likes you, he really must!” You get the picture.
Their actions didn’t show it, yet I would still go back to what they said. I would replay what they said to me over and over in my mind and wonder whether they did actually like me or not. But the truth is, they obviously didn’t. Maybe those men did a little, but not enough to really want to be with me. And that is not enough. I will no longer let myself believe that it is!
If I guy really likes you, his actions will show it every time. Actions such as;
1. He will call you
A guy who genuinely likes you (not just the thought of you naked in his bed, but you and all of you), will call you. He won’t just text you; he will actually pick up the phone and call. And you will never find yourself waiting by the phone or running outside to check if your phone signal still works, because you won’t need to.
2. He will take you on a real date
He will also take you on a date. And I don’t mean to his place to “watch a movie”, I mean a romantic dinner at a restaurant, the bowling alley, the movies or lunch at a winery (just to name a few), somewhere in PUBLIC at the very least.
For example, have you ever had a guy you like within your friend group? You see him at friend’s houses, events and parties, you always have great conversation and you may even ‘hook up’ from time to time. He tells you he likes you, but you have never been on an actual date. He’s even told you several times that you will go on a date, but it never actually happens. Sorry honey, but if he really likes you, he wouldn’t be able to wait to take you out and get to know you properly.
No real date = No real future.
3. He will take interest in your life
He won’t just tell you he’s interested in your life, he will show you.
He will show you by listening to you and you will know he’s been listening to you, because he will remember the little and the big things about your life. He will remember the time you went to visit your sick Grandmother and will ask you how she is, and he will remember you’ve got an important meeting at work or he will simply remember how you like your coffee. If he wants you for more than just a bit of bedroom fun he will show you these things are important to him too.
4. He will follow through
When he says he is going to call you, he will call you. When he says he’s going to come over, he will come over. When he says he’s going to take you on a date, he will take you on a date. If he has to cancel, he will have a good reason and he will reschedule shortly after – It’s pretty simple.
There are the few guys that seem to possibly enjoy confusing us… Like the guy I wrote about recently who took me to his Mother’s birthday, then told me he wasn’t ready for a relationship. You would think that this is an action that only a guy who liked you would do and a clear sign that they like you, but NO.
A close male friend, whose opinion I value and who is straight forward when sharing his male perspective of this stuff with me, often reminds me that just because a guy says something nice to you doesn’t necessarily mean that they want to be with you. It often just means they really want to get into your pants! Gross but true! Hence, one of the reasons you need the guy to take you out and show you he likes you with actions, as well as words.
There are obviously lots of ways a guy can show you he likes you by his actions, and I can’t promise that these actions always mean a life time of happiness and everlasting love with the guy, but I can tell you this… Actions ALWAYS speak louder than words!
If a guy tells you how much he likes you but doesn’t show it. Don’t wait around for him to do so. You will be waiting forever.