Craven The City

Month: March 2016

The first kiss

tumblr_lpjgtePByt1qlnc9qo1_500I don’t know about you but I really enjoy kissing. Who doesn’t right?!  So for me, the first kiss is really important, as I couldn’t possibly see myself spending the rest of my days with anyone who wasn’t a good kisser – what a dull life that would be.

I want to look forward to coming home to that kiss at the end of my day and I want to wake up to it every morning, without dreading the thought of it!

Which leads me to the purpose of this post… The first kiss and why it’s important.

Now I don’t have a first kiss rule as such and I don’t believe that there is a particular date number for when you should be having your first kiss either.  I think if it feels right, then go for it! If it doesn’t, then don’t!  But I do believe that in some cases, it’s better to get the first kiss out of the way sooner rather than later.  Here’s why:

Kissing can show you something about their personality

  • Have you ever had a guy shove his tongue so far down your throat that you felt like you were actually going to be sick? And on the first date? – Well, this guy is not a guy you want to be with, let alone go out with or kiss again. He is clearly over confident, not respectful of what you might want, probably very cocky and is unlikely to have any manners or real etiquette.  Or he could simply be a bad kisser – regardless – Next!
  • What about when a guy ends the date with just a peck on the cheek? This is nice! He is probably a very sweet guy, but this one confuses me at times though.  My dad and my male friends kiss me on the cheek… So, does he just want to be friends with me?  Go out with this guy again, because he obviously has good manners, is respectful and may just be a little shy.  However, if he continues to only kiss you on the cheek, then you may want to query his intentions with you.
  • When he gives you a gentle kiss with a tiny bit of tongue – now this is just perfect. This is when it’s pretty clear. He obviously likes you, he wants to kiss you, he doesn’t want to make you feel physically ill and he wants you to know that he likes you more than just friends – it’s a win-win! Go out with this guy again for sure.  Just make sure the kisses are good ones.

When sparks fly

When you kiss someone you really like it’s meant to feel special.  You’re meant to really enjoy it and it’s meant to feel good.  Sometimes when it’s really good, you even feel a little spark fly and it’s all very exciting!

I dated a guy for a couple of weeks because he was super sweet.  He is still one of the sweetest guys I know and we remain friends.  But I couldn’t get passed the bad kissing.  I am sorry, I may sound like a total bitch, but I just couldn’t!  And you have absolutely no idea how bad it was! I didn’t even know it was possible for someone to be so bad at kissing! It was like a wet fish was being flapped around in my mouth, whilst he was trying to suck out all my saliva, so that I couldn’t swallow or breathe all at the same time.  At the end it felt as if half of my face was wet!  Ewww!  That is NOT how kisses with the one you love are supposed to be!

Looking back on it, perhaps I could have talked to him about it.  Perhaps, I could have taught him how to kiss.  But how on earth do you go about telling someone they make you feel sick when they kiss you and that they need to take a ‘kissing course’? If anyone has done this, I would like to hear about it!

So, whether you kiss him on the first date, the third, or the tenth, remember that there is a little more to it and it may just provide you with some helpful insight! I just hope for your sake the insight is good! But most of all, I hope the kisses are!

Happy kissing! Xx

Would you date a stripper?


Some say that it doesn’t matter what your partner does for a living.  It doesn’t matter whether he’s a Lawyer or the local garbage man, as long as he treats you the way you deserve to be treated and makes you happy – I tend to agree with this theory and I definitely don’t look for a man or judge him based on his occupation.   However, what if he was a stripper?

I have had a think about this, and I think it may depend on whether or not it’s a full time occupation.  If he’s stripping to get himself through law school or to fund a brilliant new business idea, then good on him, that’s great!  If you can make good money for taking your clothes off in public without feeling embarrassed or violated, then why not?!  However, if stripping is his full time job or “career”, and his lifelong dream is to star in the next Magic Mike movie…then you may want to rethink.

I myself went on a date with a stripper once, and I have to say it was not at all what I expected.  It really proved to me that you can’t judge a book by its cover. Let me explain:

If you met a stripper, what would your initial thought be?  Stop for a second and really think about it.

Your first thought was judgemental wasn’t it?  Don’t lie.  It’s okay. We all judge from time to time even if we don’t like to admit it.  I also think that most of you might assume he wasn’t intelligent.  You also might assume that he’s a little rough and perhaps even a real player – am I right?

Well this too, was what I was expecting when I met ‘Mr Stripper’ for a date.  But I was pleasantly surprised with what I discovered.  He was well dressed, well mannered, articulate, family orientated, kind, driven, very intelligent and stripping, simply to get himself through business school.   So that my friends, reminded me of how you really cannot judge a book by its cover!

We didn’t fall in love and end up together, so it obviously wasn’t meant to be (sorry if you’re disappointed).  But I couldn’t help but wonder, how many women would date a stripper and would you judge those women for doing so? Is a woman dating a male stripper judged the same as a man dating a female one? Or in this case, does sexism still very much apply? And the biggest question that was on my mind was, “How the hell would you introduce him to your parents?!” I know mine wouldn’t be too impressed, especially not my father!

I know we shouldn’t judge people by their occupation, but the fact is…we do! No one can deny that fact! If I was a stripper do you think any mother would want their son going out with me? I wouldn’t think so! But please, correct me if I’m wrong.

So, would you date a stripper and would you be embarrassed when asked about his occupation?  And is the occupation of the person you’re dating really relevant anyway?

I would love to hear your opinions on this one! Ladies and Gentlemen!

Until next time… xx

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