Craven The City

Month: February 2016

Swipe right for a wedding

tinder wedding

Once the go-to app for hook ups, Tinder has now become a little more serious, with ‘Tinder Weddings’ actually becoming a thing.  Can you believe it? And Tinder isn’t just for us young at heart now either, even my Mum has had a swipe or several (sorry Mum!).

For those of you who may be unfamiliar with the latest online dating craze.  Firstly, have you been living under a rock?! Secondly, Tinder is a dating app which culls a group of men and women in close proximity to you who are also using the app. As there is no long user profile, your choices are based on photos from your Facebook profile, which really is quite superficial.  Hence why it is often referred to and used as a go-to app for hook ups.  Basically, if a person thinks you are attractive they swipe to the right.  If they don’t, then they swipe to the left.  Should you both happen to swipe right, then… Tada! It’s a match!

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Once there is a match, a chat is enabled automatically within the app so you can begin chatting and hopefully arrange to meet.

Sure, you can still try your luck for a hook up, a quick fling, or even a one night stand, and you may even get a lot of them if you’re feeling ‘stud-ly’ enough.  But, if you are looking for love, don’t be discouraged by the people who use it for the other reasons I just mentioned.  I say this, because if my friend had been discouraged and didn’t go back to Tinder for one last shot (or should I say ‘one last swipe’), she wouldn’t have met her Fiancé.

Yes, you heard right, my friend met her Fiancé on Tinder. She’s not the type to meet a guy out at a nightclub or bar, and she had been single for some time, so when a work colleague suggested Tinder to her, she decided to give it a go.  After a few swipes, she got the impression that it was purely for hooks up and decided it wasn’t for her – Not her thing!

However, whilst at a friend’s place one evening, she was persuaded to give it one last shot and that next swipe proved to be her final one.  She chatted to the guy…let’s call him “Mr T” (T for Tinder of course), who was a FIFO worker at the time, for a couple of weeks until the night he flew back into Perth. They met that same night at a bar by the ocean. She told me she wasn’t nervous at all, as “Mr T” made her feel very comfortable and relaxed, as if they had known each other for months.  And so, a Tinder romance blossomed and now, two years later, they are engaged and planning their wedding.

And you know what?  That’s not the only wedding being planned either…recent news articles have cited Tinder as being responsible for more than 1000 engagements!  Who would have thought?

I don’t know about you, but the majority of my Tinder experiences haven’t exactly been pleasant and they definitely haven’t been engagement worthy!  However, hearing my friend’s story and those statistics, has put a more positive light on Tinder for me and has even provided me with a little bit of hope.

Look, I still don’t think I will be going back on there any time soon (I’ve stopped looking remember!).  But for those of you who are still actively looking, I hope this gives you a bit of hope too and perhaps even reminds you that love really can happen and it can happen where you least expect it!

So, with that in mind, would you consider Tinder to find love? Or perhaps you have already? I’d love to hear how your experience went x

 

Some encouraging words from my friend:

Open your mind up to different ways of meeting people. Use Tinder for what you want to gain out of it and don’t be discouraged by the fact that there are people who use it for different reasons to you. One day you never know, you might swipe right on the person that might be standing next to you for the rest of your life.

Valentines Day & Dating…Should you or shouldn’t you?

valentinesValentine’s Day…”A single ladies favourite time of the year!” Said no one ever!

I don’t think couples like it very much either – why is that?  Anyway, regardless of what we think of the day, it is approaching us, and it is going to happen whether we like it or not!

Whether you’ve been dating him for a week, a month, several months or a year, or you’re completely unattached, here’s what you might like to expect and what you might like to do for this year’s edition.

You’ve been dating him for a week

Okay well it’s only been a week.  I’m sorry, but I really don’t think you can expect anything here.

Valentine’s Day falls on a Sunday this year, so if he If he is a real gentleman and perhaps even a romantic, he may take you out for a nice lunch or picnic.

But let’s face it; most men will completely forget the day all together unless you remind them.  And no!  It’s only been a week, there is no way in hell you are allowed to remind them.  If however, your need to do something on Valentine’s Day gets the better of you –  remind him if you so desire, but just a little warning… you probably won’t be hearing from him again.

You’ve been dating him for a month

This is when it gets a little interesting.  Depending on how many dates you’ve been on over the month and how much he likes you, this is when I would expect him to arrange a date, nothing too over the top, but a simple and romantic dinner and walk along the beach perhaps.

If you’re wondering what to do if he doesn’t mention it, I would recommend you arrange a night out with the girls, or better yet, think about dating other people.

However, if you’ve really got your heart set on spending Valentine’s with this guy, I think it’s acceptable to casually ask him; “So, have you got any plans for Valentine’s day?”.

You could even suggest something…. “Dinner and a Fringe show Sunday night?”  Followed by, “It’s Valentine’s Day?! I had no idea!”

Click here to browse the Fringe events occurring in Perth this Valentine’s Day.

You’ve been dating him for three months

If you’ve been dating consistently for three months then he should really be stepping up his game now.  Flowers, chocolates, dinner, wine, a movie….the works.  Here’s hoping anyway!

Some of my personal favourite romantic restaurants:

  • Clarence’s, Mount Lawley
  • Modo Mio, Crown Burswood
  • St Michael, Highgate
  • Divido, Mount Hawthorn
  • Duende, Leederville
  • Maltilda Bay Restaurant, Crawley

And it shouldn’t be all on him you know, if you’re a good girlfriend you will buy him something too.  Something I did for a boyfriend was make a beautiful little box filled with gift vouchers for him to use with me.  The gift vouchers included simple things like ‘One home cooked meal’ or ‘One night out on the town’.  But it also included some naughty vouchers for him to use, you get the idea….

If you prefer to buy your gift, here are some other ideas for your male suitor this Valentine’s Day:

  • Does he really like bacon? Buy him chocolate covered bacon or better yet, check out this recipe and make it for him!
  • Does he have a beard? Buy him a beard grooming kit
  • Better yet…. Do you hate his beard? Buy him a shaving set
  • Is he a suit kinda guy? Buy him some personalized love cufflinks

You’ve been dating him for a year – It’s official

You’ve been dating for a year, you’re now an exclusive couple and you’re in love.  Ooh la la! Lucky you!  I have one word for you too…. Jewellery!

A good girlfriend doesn’t hint and nag, or put in specific requests for jewellery though – Spoilt much?!

However, if he asks you what you would like, there’s no harm in making a suggestion right?

I am in love with Rosendorff diamonds right now and am especially loving their ‘special moments pieces.

If you’re dateless

So, you’re dateless, single, alone, lonely, unattached, isolated, without equal, solo, detached (I think you get the picture and I’m sorry if some of these words brought a tear to your eye).   You may even be desperate, but stop right now, don’t fret, don’t worry and don’t cry because being single on Valentine’s Day can actually be really fun! Some singles even organize ‘Anti-Valentine’s Day’ parties, so why not get into the spirit and find one near you?

Like to take the opportunity to meet someone on Valentine’s Day?  Why not go to a singles meet up?  Or the Tinder Party on the Rooftop at the Aviary on Saturday the 13th, where they will be playing Cupid and serving ‘Swipe Right Cocktails’ – Visit the Aviary website for details.

So whether you’ve been dating him for a week, a month, several months or a year, or you’re completely unattached, whether you love or hate the day, and whether you’re spending it with a hot man, your fabulous single girlfriends or at home with your cat, enjoy it! And remember…. It is really only another day Xx

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