1. Meet in a public place
The reason for this one is obvious isn’t it? – Safety!
You can never be too careful when meeting a guy for a first date. Whether you met him on the internet or at a bar, when you go for your first date meet him in a place as public as possible like a busy cafe or restaurant to keep yourself as safe as possible.
2. Arrive a little late
In my experience, being the first one to arrive for a date and sitting on your own in a restaurant or a bar wondering when he is going to turn up is not exactly an enjoyable experience. Therefore, I’ve found it’s best to be a little late, so that in most cases he is already there and you can see him right away to ease any nerves you may have.
But ladies, when I say a little late I mean 5-10 minutes, I mean you don’t want to be rude!
3. Offer to buy the first round
This shows you’re a kind, generous and independent woman who doesn’t need a man to buy her things. In most cases the guy will insist on paying anyway and you won’t have to. But I can assure you, either way, this will definitely impress the pants off him.
4. Keep it light
There is nothing worse than listening to someone talk heavy on a first date. If you start talking about your difficult childhood, your past relationship or your grandmother passing away, the guy is very likely to freak out and run for the hills. Besides, surely discussing those things over a first date wouldn’t exactly be enjoyable for you either.
5. Don’t over share
This is very similar to my last point I know, but I can’t stress the importance of this one enough. Don’t tell your date too much to begin with. Keep the conversation fun and interesting.
Tell him the basic details about you of course, i.e. your job, your hobbies, number of siblings your favourite food etc and find out similar information about him too. Just don’t delve much deeper.
He will only freak out and you will only want to slap yourself later. I promise.
6. Drive for a quick getaway
Drive your car to your first date. This is a good one for two reasons:
- A: You will not be able to drink much
- B: You will have a way to quickly get yourself home, should the date turn into a total disaster (I hope for your sake it doesn’t, but just in case)
7. Be up front about what you want
I know I said earlier that you shouldn’t tell your date too much or get heavy. That is still the case. However, I do believe it is important to be clear about what it is that you’re looking for from the start i.e. whether you’re looking for a bit of fun in the bedroom, a simple friendship or a long term relationship.
Don’t make a big thing about it, but if it does come up, be honest, that way if he isn’t looking for the same thing you are, you can move on quickly and avoid getting hurt.
You will thank yourself for it.
8. Watch your wine intake
Don’t get drunk on a first date. I guarantee he will be turned off, you will make a fool of yourself and you will do something you may regret.
Find out what is a good amount for you and stick to it as a rule. Me, I won’t allow myself anymore than two glasses on a first date.
9. Don’t be the first to text
This may sound silly but I never text the guy first after a first date. I always wait for him to text me. Why you might ask? – because if you text the guy first it’s harder to tell whether or not he genuinely likes you. If the guy is polite, he may just respond to you anyway. Or, he may even agree to a second date just because he has nothing better to do.
What you want and what you deserve is a guy who enjoyed your company so much that he absolutely can’t wait to see you again! This guy will text you within 24 hours, I can guarantee it.
So just wait it out and give yourself some credit. If he is into you, you will hear from him.
10. Have Fun!
I don’t know about you, but sometimes I find I just can’t shut my thoughts up! So often rather than just enjoying the date, I find myself thinking about it and wondering whether or not it will lead anywhere. Sometimes I will even think about my workload for the next day or the washing I still haven’t done, when I really should just be listening to him and enjoying the moment.
Don’t think about whether the date is going to go anywhere or not. Just enjoy the moment you’re in and have a little fun.